4 Brutally Honest Lessons I Learned From HBO'S Girls
Spoiler alert! - If you haven't seen all episodes of Girls this article may contain spoilers
My Favorite TV HBO Show, Girls, I soon coming to an end and as stupid as it sounds (because, hey it's a TV show!!) I will miss Hannah, Marnie, Jessa and Shoshanna. In many ways I could relate to them, their dilemmas and ups and downs, which is more than I've ever been able to say about SATC or GG or any other of the girly TV Shows.
For those of you who don't know Girls, it's a TV Show about four girls you follow trough their 20's in NYC. You laugh and you cry with them as they go through awkward job interviews, have fights and in general just becomes adult each in their own pace. On paper, it may sound a bit dull but I can't help myself every Monday thinking "Yes, I can relate to that" and "Yes, I can also relate to that". In this post I will tell you some of the best lessons I learned from HBO's Girls.
How it is to be a "Modern Day Lady"
There are no right or wrong way to be a lady. However, for centuries the media have been preaching the right way to be a lady "What to do and not to do" they write, about everything from looks, to sex and dating as well as clothing. But the reality is that there's no right or wrong way, and I think that is proven throughout the show. My favorite scene is from season 1, episode 2 where Hanna, Shoshanna and Jessa are discussing men and dating. Shos brings up a book about dating rules. The book says "If a man doesn't take you on a date, he's not interested", "If he takes you from behind, it is degrading" and so on until Jessa says "But what if I like being taken from behind, because then I don't have to look at him?!" - something like that... and then she continues "I don't like women telling other women what to do, or how to do it, or when to do it." . I don't know, it just screams girlpower and modern day attitude.
End a relationship and stop being such a bitch
Throughout the seasons we experience a lot of breakups from guys that are mean, have issues etc. but the breakup that really was an eye opener to me, was Marnie's relationship with Charlie in season 1. Often women are portrayed as the victims in bad relationships but this was totally different. Her and Charlie have been in a relationship for a long time, and have started to see each other more as friends than as a couple. As she says, "I more see him as my weird uncle". He's a good guy and looking from the outside, The Perfect guy. The spark is just not there anymore, and her frustrations about his lack of balls no matter what he does, turns her into a bitch. until she finally ends it. Without saying too much, I partly saw myself in Marnie in a previous relationship and that made me realise that when you are in a relationship that brings the worst up in you, neither he or you deserve to be in it.
It is okay to kill a friendship
Throughout the seasons we see how the dynamics of the four girl's friendships change. and in the latest episode, Shoshanna actaully breaks up with the Girls. It was such an awkward and honest scene at the same time, because, the reality is that most of us have been in a situation like that before. Maybe not breaking up, but being at a crossroad where you deep inside know that the friends you once thought would be your friends for life, can't be a part of your life anymore. And that is okay!
Shoshanna can be quite badass sometimes actaully... "I can't be surrounded by your negativity while I'm trying to grow into a fully formed woman" -- Shoshanna
So you thought University was though? Try Working!
As season 1 starts the girls have just finished college and are now, for the first time in their life, trying what's it like to be "real" adults. They go through rejections, shitty jobs while the parents on the other hand is trying to "cut the ties" to financial support and comfort. Becoming an adult is though, especially growing up as a spoiled child like I and many other people my age , and as the seasons shows, it takes effort. And some of us maybe never grow up, there will always be ups and downs but maybe life, as we grow older, teaches us what's worth giving a fuck about and what's not.